Oh god I have so much to do today. I need to just sit, blog and let my brain take a moment before I fire it up for some organisation. Organisation not being my strong point. Or even my weak point. It just doesn't figure in my world. Can you hear the panic?! Must order DNA tests, must switch council tax/electric/water bills, must choose furniture to move tomorrow, must cut knee high grass at both houses, must grasp fact that Twinny will be here a week today. I feel faint.
So let's talk dreadlocks.
(c) sara janssen
Always loved them. Started thinking about them again last week inspired by Sara and Denise. I even found a loctitian nearby who could dread my hair and crochet in some dread extensions so that they were long enough. I was thinking shoulder length, not too fat, very red, some loose hair just to girlie them up a bit. Beads. Love beads.
I don't think it's going to happen. Well it's not. Normally I wouldn't dream of discussing anything to do with my hair with Charlie and he wouldn't dream of expecting me to, but dreads are fairly radical and Charlie... isn't so much. Internally yes, externally no.
I mentioned it. He wasn't keen.
He mentioned it. I didn't put up much of an argument.
He "really, really" doesn't like them.
I think I've presented him with enough change for a while and he's coping magnificently for someone who "really, really" doesn't like change.
I can't do it.
So instead I'll keep on growing it, keep it good'n'red - red hair makes me feel as if I have superpowers - and play with scruffing it up in other ways. That'll do.
These thoughts have fitted in nicely with my current attempts to go with what is. I've been the kind of person who gets very attached to a vision, an idea, a dream being just as I have it in my head and now I'm trying to see more possibility. See that it's good to have dreams and visions to aim for but also to appreciate a detour. The place you end up will be perfect if you believe it is and let go of your attachment to an absolute.
It's working for me, I'm very happy. Very happy. Yesterday at the office a co-worker said to me,"Jo, you're looking really chilled at the moment."
And I am. Scrub that first paragraph.